This blog post is a response to the article:
This article would not have caught my attention in any way but since they used the photo (taken by Cheryl Tay) to symbolize “skinniness”, I will have a voice on this.
So the writer has given 8 reasons why a skinny girlfriend might not be the best girlfriend. So here’s a little dissection of mine pertaining to only some parts of it.
1. “When you want to get to know a girl, do you judge her by her appearance or her personality? In a world where skinny is the new beauty, will you be able to get together with a fat girl?”
He/she raises the context about choosing between appearance or personality. Half of the reasons in the whole article aren’t even personality-based arguments but are just there to fault the girl for how she looks like. (E.g “She’s less comfortable to hug”. Cmon seriously? ) The writer seems to associate only negative personality with being skinny and fun personality traits with the other.
There are also many other comparisons you can use such as strong girl, fit girl, curvy girl, buff girl etc but seems to me, the writer has only been exposed to two variants of body types.
2. “She diets…successfully.
Girls always think they’re fat and this includes your skinny girlfriend. The reason why she can maintain her figure is because she takes extra care in what she eats, which means if you are looking for someone to pig out with, you’re better off with your best friend than her, because then you’ll feel so guilty for pigging out in front of her while she eats her salad daintily.”
Girls who maintain their health take care of what they eat. Period. Anybody who takes care of their bodies will nourish it with good food and choose to be active. Occasionally, they balance it out by having treats whenever they feel like it. I have no idea why that is an unattractive quality to you. Honestly, most guys I know don’t really care what their girlfriends eat in front of them.
3.”She cannot eat buffet with you
If you’re a fan of buffets, you’d be sorely disappointed if you bring her along to a buffet with you because she’s just going to waste your money. With the quantity she eats, you’d be better off ordering ala carte.”
Have you met my friends? A Japanese restaurant in California ever removed their buffet option after we went there because they lost so much money overnight. With the quantity we ate, the restaurant was definitely better off if we ordered ala carte indeed.
4. “You’ll spend more money
When courting skinny girls, they’d definitely receive plenty of gifts and treats, even from you. But the moment you get your dirty paws on her, it doesn’t mean you can stop spending. In fact, you might have to spend even more because if you don’t, some other guy is going to come along and steal her from right under your nose, or at least that’s what you’ll think.”
If this girl is wiping out your wallet to unreasonable limits, yes perhaps you should think twice. Otherwise, there’s no reason why a guy or girl cannot be pampered by his/her other half once in a while.
5. “She has lots of admirers
One thing that all guys are afraid of is their girls getting snatched away by other men. If she’s skinny and gorgeous, you’ll always be living with the fear that she’s going to be taken away by some other guy who’s better than you.”
If you both have a strong, meaningful relationship, then there’s nothing to fear about this.
6. “She looks unhealthy
There’s the skinny girls, and there’s the skinny girls. If your girlfriend belongs to the latter, she’d look malnourished and generally unhealthy, so much so that when you go out with her, you’d always feel as though people are suspecting you for abuse.”
You need to be more sensitive to real issues that girls do struggle with.
7. “You’d always feel self-conscious
Because she’s skinny, you’d feel self-conscious and not up to standards in terms of looks and other qualities so you’d go crazy and possessive, suspicious at every little thing which sours the entire relationship and results in an unhappy breakup.”
This is your issue, not your girlfriend’s fault for looking just the acceptable way she is.
Overall, this article sounds more like one that is meant to skinny shame, and does not create any value to society at all..
While she’s at it, she puts a caveat ” If you are self-righteous or easily annoyed, please click the ‘back’ button now.”
Why can’t we just get over which floats whoever’s boats, right?